Posts Tagged ‘self’

It is What You Make it.

December 24, 2013

“It is what it is.”  This is a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot lately, and it drives me nuts.  Now, before you ask, I’ll tell you why.  It is another way of saying that the situation is forced on you, and you have no control, and therefore bear no responsibility, for the outcome.  If you know what I’ve been seriously researching this year, and committing to learn, you’ll know that I don’t believe that, and if you’re serious about success neither will you.

I’m not saying that you can control the actions of others.  Here’s an example from work that illustrates this perfectly; one of my jobs is to sort the load onto metal boats, and wheeled out to the individual aisles.  In order to sort the load properly, we need a minimum of 26 boats, and that will reduce walking, and increase productivity.  During this time of the year, other departments take the boats we need leaving us with a severe shortage. If you say “it is what it is” you are resigning yourself to that fact, and you will end up frustrated in the end, because you won’t see any other options.

If, however, you say to yourself, “it is what I make it” you will no longer be so frustrated, because you will know that you control the outcome, and your mind will begin searching for solutions, instead of making excuses; and yes, there are always options.

In Jack Canfield’s book “The Success Principles” the first principle is, take 100% responsibility.  Every speaker I’ve listened to, and every book on success I’ve read says exactly the same thing.  You must take 100% responsibility for your life, and success.  If you don’t, you are giving control of your life to someone else, and you will have no say in it.

Situations will happen in our lives, and this is unavoidable, but how you respond emotionally is what gives it the power in your life.  Going back to the boat situation, let’s look at just the facts.  We need 26 boats to efficiently process the load, to make it easier for others to do their jobs.  Fact number 2, is we don’t have that number of boats available.  There it is, those are the plain and simple facts.  How we respond will determine how we remedy the situation.  Others will have different ways of looking at the situation than ourselves.

The only thing that matters, in the end, is that we find a solution, and get the job done; but you will never reach that point if you resign yourself to the situation by saying “it is what it is.”


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A Haunting Self Portrait

December 20, 2012

The hardest part of taking this picture was the lack of light.  It was taken at 10:30 at night, with the moon covered by clouds.  I started with two minute exposures at ISO 100, but all I got was darkness with a couple of light spots in the distance.  In order to get the shot the brightness I wanted I had to go up to ISO 3200.

The face, and the fence had another problem.  The flash I was using wasn’t enough. In the end, I had to use my flash light to paint myself and the fence with light.

This turned out to be a great experience photographically, and a fun challenge, which was to do a self portrait in an unconventional manner.

Taken at Willard Beach, by SMCC

Taken at Willard Beach, by SMCC

Overcome self doubt

April 20, 2009

Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”  The term for this is “self fulfilling prophesy”.  We are all guilty of allowing negative thoughts keep us from doing something.  Sometimes it’s procrastination, and sometimes it’s an actual fear that you can’t do something.  Whether it’s a fear that our own minds create, or one that someone else taught us, the fear is both real, and unreasonable.

At Hannaford, we have to deal with bulk (large cases we work from pallets), and freight (smaller cases we process onto carts).  I have always told myself that bulk is my enemy that I have never got the hang of it, so I prefer to stay in the back room to do the process, while others are doing the bulk.  I’m not being lazy, processing is hard work, and I work hard the whole night, but there’s just something about the bulk.  What I figured out last night is there isn’t anything wrong with the bulk; the problem is that I’ve spent the last eight years convinced that I couldn’t do it.

Now, I have to work hard to change the entire way I think about that one aspect of work.  Eight years of self-talk is going to take some breaking through but I know I can do it.

The longer you tell yourself that you can’t do something, the harder it is for you to break out of the pattern.  Imagine standing next to a large stack of bricks.  Every time you say, “I can’t do that.”  You take a brick and add it to the wall in front of you.  As you go through your life that wall gets bigger. Every time you or someone else convinces you that you cannot do something, the wall gets more impenetrable.

Now let’s go the other way.  When you tell yourself you can do something, you take a brick away from the wall.  The longer you tell yourself you can, the wall will get smaller until you can break through, and you will begin to realize that there isn’t anything you can’t do.

Challenge: Think of something you’ve convinced yourself you can’t do.  Now give it a shot, and keep at it until you get it.  It will be a real self-esteem booster.