Posts Tagged ‘personal’

First Look Photo: City Architecture

February 7, 2018

Thanks to the wonderful website I have been looking at some of the architecture of Portland.  I really like the looks of the city building, in the tower, at night.  I especially like the way the arches are lit up.

The Tower


Changing Perspective with a Focus Statement

October 17, 2014

It goes without saying, but I’m saying it anyways, that 100 percent of people around the world have problems, and worries. The sad part of this figure is that 99 percent of the population have become victims of these problems and worries, and use these as an excuse of why they are unable to succeed. A few years ago, a small percentage of these people took it on themselves to speak for the 99 percent, and complain about those who learned to succeed in spite of their problems. Successful people have problems and worries, just like everyone else; they just don’t focus any attention on them. What we are talking about here is perspective.
When I first started with my job, I believed that my job was hard. I found it difficult to get through big nights, and my percentage remained at less than 90 for years. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t get past that 90 percent. The supervisors would right me up, use threats of disciplinary action, all to no avail. A couple of years ago, I started studying success, and something hit me. I was focusing on the problems I was having getting my speed up. I was spending all my time worrying about the consequences of not improving. I was not focusing on what I wanted to see, which was a better percentage, and work speed. I then learned about auto-suggestion, and came up with a focus statement, “every day I am working faster, and more efficient.” I would start each day at work with saying that to myself, for 15 minutes. Within 2 months, I noticed that my percentage and speed was noticeably increasing to both me, and my supervisors.
I was recently able to give someone the same idea of a focus statement, and he’s been seeing similar results. Before he came up with his own statement, he asked what I thought about the statement “I don’t want to be slow.” The problem, I told him, with this statement was that he was still focusing on being slow. I told him that to make it work in a positive direction, it has to be a positive statement.
When we take a problem we’re having, and create a positive focus statement, we change our perspective, and open ourselves up to the positive. Here’s my way of overcoming my weaknesses at work. The problem was low productivity, and trying to justify why I was so slow. My first step was to take responsibility, and get rid of the excuses. I knew I didn’t want the low productivity, so I had to decide what I did want, higher productivity. Then I came up with my focus statement, “I am working faster, and more efficient.” Then I would repeat this daily until it became a regular part of my thinking, and whatever you focus your attention on will cause your body to react. Eventually your body will perform the actions required without thinking about it.
This is not the only way to change your life in a positive direction, but it is the one that has helped me the most. The only advice I have for you, if you have problems that still seem overwhelming, learn what others have done, and pick the method that works best for you.

Know Your Starting Point

April 17, 2014



OK, you’ve expressed your desire, and what you want to do with the rest of your life, and you have the end in mind. This will leave you with just one question. “What next?”
Many people will tell you that the next step is to take action, and that is a very important step, but I believe that even before you take action you have to know where you are, and when you are.
There are two very good reasons for this. One, it shows you where you are starting from, and two, it helps you determine the direction you need to take. Imagine you are driving through a new city, to find a restaurant where you are meeting some friends. Whether you are using a gps, or reading a map, you have to know both where you want to start, and where you want to end up. If all you have is the destination you will never be able to find your way.
Let’s just say your destination is going to Denver. You want the most direct method to get there from your current location. If you don’t know where you are starting from, you will never know which way to go. If however, you know you are starting from Portland, Maine, you know you can hop on Southbound 95 to Baltimore, and head over to 70 heading west. That will take you to Denver. That may not be the most direct method, but the point is, in order to reach a destination, you must first know where you are starting from.
Now, let’s put that in a way that works with success. If your goal is to have one million dollars within the next year, it’s important to know where you are starting from. If you have 10 dollars in the bank currently, (yes, it can be done) the methods you use will likely be different than if you were starting with 100,000 dollars. This information is vital in choosing the correct path to act on.
By this point, you may be wondering why I also say when you are. The answer to that can be easily answered. It’s no secret that in order to reach your goals, you need to focus on the end result, and believe you already have it. By focusing on your past mistakes, and allowing them to haunt you, you can never move forward.
Your past is done, and can be useful in teaching you what not to do, but don’t let it spoil your dreams. Remember, the only place you have to start from is your current position. Don’t let your past ruin your future.
Once you know where you are going, and before you act, first figure out where you are starting from. It will give you a positive direction, and make the road to your dreams much smoother.
I realize it’s been a while, but my computer has been messing up, and I’ve been trying to learn how to use my Alphasmart word processor. It works great, by the way.

Believe in Your Dreams

October 21, 2013


When you first start working towards a purpose, or dream, your excitement level is up to a full ten, and you feel there is nothing that can stop you.  The next step, of course, is to write down those little goals that will move you in the direction of that dream, and you start daily affirmations, and visualizations.  You may even have a vision board set up where you can see it every day.  That only leaves many of us with one question.  “Why isn’t anything happening yet?”

I could say the reason for this is simple, but I would be lying.  On the outside, we are doing all the work from the dozens of seminars we’ve attended, the books we’ve read, and the audio programs we’ve listened to.  The problem is not coming from our work ethic, or any outside influence like the government, family, or aliens from the planet Ork.  The problem we are experiencing is coming from inside.

Whether we succeed, or not, has to do with our true beliefs about success.  Have you ever wondered why most people end up just like their parents when it comes to financial matters?  It has to do with what most experts call the “money blueprint.”  The money blueprint is made up of everything we heard, saw, and experienced around money that has lodged itself in our subconscious.  No matter what we tell ourselves on the outside, we will not become successful until we work on what we have stopping us on the inside.

 I know I’ve mentioned this, but I grew up in a house with six kids, and two adults.  My dad worked hard for a corporation, and my step mother ran a small day care out of our house.  To say we weren’t rich is an understatement.  We were living on the lower end of middle class; that is to say, the bills were paid, and we had a roof over our head.  All the lessons I learned centered on hard work, and just getting by; even if it was by the skin of my teeth.  While on the outside I know I have the potential for so much more, I have been living with the same inner beliefs that have stopped me from reaching the next level to my dreams.

If we wish to break free of our limiting beliefs, we need to reprogram our subconscious with a whole new set of instructions concerning money.  A good idea is to make a list of everything you were taught about money, (some will be positive, and some will be negative) giving yourself the time needed to think about it.  Don’t rush this; there is not a test on it in a week.  When you have finished this, determine what is negative, and write down the opposite.  At least twice a day, focus on the positive statements for more than 10 minutes.

  Here’s an example from my own life.  What I learned: I don’t always get what I want.  This statement is very limiting, and forces most into the belief that what I want isn’t worth pursuing because I probably won’t get it anyways.

The positive statement: I have anything I want, and more.   Instead of saying “I can have…” Say “I have”.  The reason for this is important.

 Part of achieving success is the belief that you already have the success you want.  Mark 11:24 says “Whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it is yours.”  By believing you already have what you want, you will be heightening your awareness to the opportunities present around you; all you have to do from there is act on them.

Since the negative beliefs have been with you your whole life, it won’t be easy changing them, but it can, and must be done if you want to see the fulfillment of all your dreams.


Thank you for reading this.  If you want to see any of the videos I’m posting on success, pleas check out my website and please visit the store if you would like any of the inspirational photos in these blogs.

New Video: My wife says I wear a B cup!!!

May 9, 2012

This video is an update video on how my fitness levels are changing.  On my videos, I will now start doing more videos with writing and photography, and I will still do fitness videos.  This is all part of complete health training, and reaching full creative potential.


Personal Mentor Wanted!!!

October 20, 2011

Growing up, I had a lot of people to give me encouragement for my writing.  In second grade, my teacher told me I had talent.  My family told me they loved my writing, and I even had some strangers tell me the same thing.  Now, I am 45, and other than this blog site, I’ve only had five pieces published.

Now you may be asking, “If you have people to encourage you, why don’t you have more written?”  Even if you’re not asking it, I certainly was today.  I went over it and I believe the reason is a lack of a mentor.  By mentor I mean another writer I can meet with and discuss writing.

Don’t get me wrong. I love my family dearly, and as I’ve said before, my mom’s side of the family is highly creative.  My mom is a painter; my younger brother is a musician; my older brother is skilled in engineering; and my sister is a well-known cosmetologist.  With all this creative talent in the family, there are no other writers.  The encouragement I’ve received has helped my confidence greatly; but only another writer can both encourage and push me the right direction into productivity.

A true mentor is someone with the same interest you have, but who also has more experience.  They can show you new ways of doing something, and help you think in new directions.  They will hold you accountable for your craft, and they will help when you get stuck.  There are members of my online writing group who fall into that category, but the fact that they don’t live anywhere near me dis-qualifies them as true mentors.  Even so, their help over the years has proven extremely valuable, and their support is always greatly appreciated.

Of course, what I look for in a mentor is someone I live close to, with whom I can meet with in a coffee shop, or another appropriate venue, where I can have a nice one on one conversation about writing.  A place where we can read each other’s work, and offer constructive, and respectful,  opinions about what we read, and possibly come up with solutions to the problem areas.

The best part of having a local mentor is this; they will push you to continue, and they won’t let you use your insecurities as an excuse to quit.  A good mentor will hound you to keep you writing, and you won’t be able to get rid of them by turning off the computer.



If you are looking for a good writing group that will support your writing, and answer your questions, go to Writingandpublishing on yahoo groups.  They are a very good group of writers on every level.

Life in print

August 5, 2009

I love the saying “All of life is copy.”  I heard this for the first time on the special features of “You’ve Got Mail” when Nora Ephron was talking about the lesson she learned as a child.  She came from a family of writers, and as far as I’m concerned, she is an amazing writer herself.

The lesson of this little statement, that she learned from her father, was that there is no subject so private, or so sacred, that you cannot write about it.  If you are so worried about who might be offended, or hurt, by what you write, don’t let it stop you from writing what you need to.

Writing has an amazing way of helping you through the healing process of a tragedy, or a bout of depression, and if it helps you, it may help others.  Don’t be afraid to put down exactly what you feel.  When writing fiction, negative events in your life can serve to inspire scenes in your story, or an entire novel. How you use the event isn’t nearly as important as getting it down on paper.

As an example, I thought I would give you just a little of my main character’s history, as it was inspired by my own history.  The name of my main character is Sarah Bradley.  Her father left her and her mother when Sarah was 7, with a woman he was having an affair with. He never came back.  My mother left us when I was 7, but it had nothing to do with an affair, and she did come back.

Sarah always dreamed about writing, and traveling.  I always dreamed about writing and photography; traveling didn’t matter that much to me.

She has a horrific schedule with her job as an executive assistant at an advertising agency, which keeps her from writing.  I have two jobs and take care of a handicapped wife, and that keeps me from writing as much as I need to.

Her mother is creative.  My mother is creative.

As you can see, parts of her history are the same as mine, and other parts are not.  The parts that are not I’ve taken from other people I know, and people I’ve read about. Those things I include can be deeply emotional for me, but by writing them down helps me to erase some of the scars.

Don’t forget, the things that happened to us in the past become a part of who we are now.  There is nothing that you can do to change that, so why not write about it, it may be that event will add dimension to an otherwise flat story line.

Challenge:  Take a negative event in your life and do something positive that may help someone else; add it to your writing.