Posts Tagged ‘failure’

Who’s Responsible for Success?

September 13, 2013


100 percent

The beginning of any journey to success; whether it’s for weight, or career, or money, starts right where you are.  There are no past failures, or no false starts, and it’s time to put the excuses out of your mind.  When it comes to the past, you need to get over it and move on.  By all means, use the lessons you learned from the past, but don’t dwell on the events; they will just distract you from your future.

According to every expert on the subject of personal growth, and success, the first step in getting everything you want is to take 100% responsibility for your life and success.  T. Harv Eker, in his book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, uses success affirmations throughout.  The first one of these is, “I create the exact level of my success.”

Michelangelo talked of success with the statement, “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” We create our own success, and most of us aim for the safest way to live a comfortable life by setting goals we know can be reached easily.  If we never reach beyond our comfort zone to higher goals, we will end up stuck in our current situation, with no hope for more.

Before we can move forward with our journey, there are three things we need to get rid of, or we will never grow.  The first of these is blame.  We blame family, friends, the government, teachers, our bosses, our past environment, our current environment, the list could continue forever.  The point is, in order to succeed, you need to take the reins on your whole life, and stop blaming everyone, and everything that you “think” is holding you back.

The second thing we need to get rid of is justification.  We use phrases like, “it is what it is”, “these things happen” and my family motto, “life isn’t always fair, and you don’t always get what you want.”  Of course, I now know these sayings are justifications, and PURE baloney!  If you want success in anything, it’s up to you to get it, and you mustn’t let anything stop you.

The third thing you need to get rid of is complaining.  The truth is, complaining can never lead to anything good.  I worked with a guy who complained about everything.  To him, everything and everyone was out to get him.  He would complain about work, the people he worked with (usually behind their backs), and he even complained about things going on in other parking lots.  When you spend your life complaining, nothing is ever “fair” and your whole life is miserable.  You will feel your whole life change for the better if you stop complaining all together.

The time is now to take complete control of your life.  Does that mean that you will never blame, justify, or complain?  The truth is we will still do those things, we are human, but we can learn to control them, and change them to positive.

As a part of the journey to success I have started a journal which should help me stay on focus, and teach me where I need it.  The first page, and this is something I recommend for everyone starting a success journal, is to write a declaration of responsibility.  Mine reads “I, Allen Bradford, certify that I am 100 % responsible for my own life and success.”  By declaring this, I am holding myself accountable for my own life, and I no longer have any excuses.


Day 34: Emergence

January 27, 2012



I hold myself back

From reaching my potential,

Limited by the fears

Of disappointment and failure.

I long to break free of my cocoon,

Spun with a silk

Made of society rules

And stereotypes.

This cocoon is hard to break through

And very limiting,

But when I do emerge

I can let my creativity

Dance limitless through the sky.

Proofreading: it’s worth the effort

July 26, 2009

One of the things I can’t stand about working for a corporation is their philosophy on speed versus quality.  I have always believed that quality should come before speed, and not the other way around.  Whether you put out 20 or 200,000 units per year, if the quality is substandard, the damage is done and your professional reputation will suffer.  The same holds true for writing.  Publishers are in such a hurry to get as many books out as possible, that I’ve been seeing mistakes in books that can be corrected easily if they just slow down, and proofread a little.

As writers, we have a message to convey, and we do it through the written word.  If we want to make certain our message is understood we need to do our part in the process.  We put everything we have into writing, and have the most to gain from its success, or the most to lose from its failure.  When we proofread our writing, we need to take our time, and make sure it doesn’t leave our hands until we are satisfied with the results.

Don’t rely on the spell/grammar check.  The problem with the spell check is that it doesn’t catch every mistake.  Let’s just say that you are writing a dialogue and one of the characters says, “Do you hear me?”  If you are typing fast and not paying attention, you might type “Do you here me?”  Here we have a typo that is very common.  If you proofread carefully you will catch it and change it.  If you rely on the spell check, it will never catch it because hear and here are both words that a computer recognizes.

This phrase might also be missed because it doesn’t change the flow of the sentence.  Improperly used, words that sound the same, but are spelled differently can make a sentence confusing to readers, and may send the wrong message.

Other typos that the spell check won’t catch are the words that can break the flow of a sentence.  One I’ve seen a lot lately is the word “of” instead of “if”.  This is more of a fast typing problem, or a finger slip.  One or two of these in a book is no real big deal, but two or three a page is sloppy proofreading.  Very few books are completely free of mistakes, and it’s to be expected, but if you let them get out of control, you will lose readers.

Whether you’re writing a masterpiece of fiction or a letter to your family, if you want your message to be heard, and taken seriously, proofreading is essential.  Take control of your writing, and invest the time needed to proofread; isn’t your message worth the effort?

Challenge: When you proofread, set a daily goal on how much you will get done.  It will make it easier on your time.