Posts Tagged ‘eker’

Success Sunday: How You Do Anything

March 8, 2015

How You Do Anything

I was listening to a Secret Seminar on Audible, and T. Harv Eker was having the audience stand up.  Some of the people weren’t standing as fast, and he said something that now makes perfect sense to me.  “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

Since my last computer crashed, one of the ways I found to keep me entertained was to add pool on my IPhone, where I can play others online.  I would play 20 or more games in a sitting, and spend most of the time losing, fast.  I would get lucky on some games, but for the most part I would lose, then, a couple of days ago, I remembered that saying, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”  (I know I said it in the first paragraph, but it is worthy of repeating)  I started playing to win, not just to play, and I started winning more often.  The first day I played 10 games, and won 9.  Even when I lose, now, the games are much closer.

I know it may seem silly talking about online billiards when discussing success traits, but there is a lesson to be learned from this.  How I treated these simple games is how I’ve treated everything in my life.  I approach my goals with the attitude of trying to reach them without the effort needed to excel.  It was only when I applied a little effort, and focus that I saw the results I wanted.

In all my successes in the past, and there have been a few, I saw the same effort and focus.  It doesn’t have to be complicated, or strenuous, to bring you to success, but there does have to be effort, focus, and you may have to leave your comfort zone to see the desired results.

I could go on and on with this subject, but instead of boring you with the War and Peace of success, there are just a couple more things in line with “How you do anything is how you do everything” that should be mentioned.  You must be persistent when doing things towards your goal.  You are going to run into temporary defeat, often, but if you are persistent, you will learn from your mistakes, and ultimately reach your goals.

The last thing I should mention is to prioritize your goals.  Life is full of distractions (like my wife, lol) and when you let those distractions get the better of you, you will eventually lose interest in your goals.  Yes, there are bills to pay, and there are chores to perform, but you must make your goals a priority, if you are ever going to succeed.  When you give your dreams the time and attention they deserve, you will be happier, and they will pay off.

Who’s Responsible for Success?

September 13, 2013

 

100 percent

The beginning of any journey to success; whether it’s for weight, or career, or money, starts right where you are.  There are no past failures, or no false starts, and it’s time to put the excuses out of your mind.  When it comes to the past, you need to get over it and move on.  By all means, use the lessons you learned from the past, but don’t dwell on the events; they will just distract you from your future.

According to every expert on the subject of personal growth, and success, the first step in getting everything you want is to take 100% responsibility for your life and success.  T. Harv Eker, in his book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, uses success affirmations throughout.  The first one of these is, “I create the exact level of my success.”

Michelangelo talked of success with the statement, “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” We create our own success, and most of us aim for the safest way to live a comfortable life by setting goals we know can be reached easily.  If we never reach beyond our comfort zone to higher goals, we will end up stuck in our current situation, with no hope for more.

Before we can move forward with our journey, there are three things we need to get rid of, or we will never grow.  The first of these is blame.  We blame family, friends, the government, teachers, our bosses, our past environment, our current environment, the list could continue forever.  The point is, in order to succeed, you need to take the reins on your whole life, and stop blaming everyone, and everything that you “think” is holding you back.

The second thing we need to get rid of is justification.  We use phrases like, “it is what it is”, “these things happen” and my family motto, “life isn’t always fair, and you don’t always get what you want.”  Of course, I now know these sayings are justifications, and PURE baloney!  If you want success in anything, it’s up to you to get it, and you mustn’t let anything stop you.

The third thing you need to get rid of is complaining.  The truth is, complaining can never lead to anything good.  I worked with a guy who complained about everything.  To him, everything and everyone was out to get him.  He would complain about work, the people he worked with (usually behind their backs), and he even complained about things going on in other parking lots.  When you spend your life complaining, nothing is ever “fair” and your whole life is miserable.  You will feel your whole life change for the better if you stop complaining all together.

The time is now to take complete control of your life.  Does that mean that you will never blame, justify, or complain?  The truth is we will still do those things, we are human, but we can learn to control them, and change them to positive.

As a part of the journey to success I have started a journal which should help me stay on focus, and teach me where I need it.  The first page, and this is something I recommend for everyone starting a success journal, is to write a declaration of responsibility.  Mine reads “I, Allen Bradford, certify that I am 100 % responsible for my own life and success.”  By declaring this, I am holding myself accountable for my own life, and I no longer have any excuses.

Allen