Posts Tagged ‘desire’

Controlling Fear

October 23, 2014

One of the things that always stopped me from success is the fear of what could happen; it’s not about what is, it’s about what if. Many of us try to live two steps ahead of the present, imagining only the bad things that can happen; “What if I try to climb a mountain, and fall hundreds of feet to my death.” “What if I can’t handle my new job, and I lose it.” “What if I walk across the street, and get hit by a bus.” While these fears may be in the realm of possible, they haven’t happened yet, and you can avoid them with the proper precautions.
When you let fear stop you from doing something, you are limiting yourself to a life of safety and mediocrity. You are not giving yourself a chance of living up to your full potential, and the best opportunities of your life are passing you by. Susan Jeffers wrote a wonderful book called, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. We all have fear, but if we want to live, we need to act on our dreams in spite of fear; don’t let the fear of tomorrow stop us from living today.
Out of all the books, and audio programs, I’ve been studying; I have never found one reference to getting rid of fear. Fear is a part of us all and spending time trying to get rid of fear only wastes our time and energy. Instead of letting fear stop us, we need to learn how to control fear, and put it in its proper place.
As with all things, fear has a positive side, as well as a negative one. The negative fear will petrify us, and leave us unable to proceed on our journey. Positive fear, once mastered, can warn us of impending trouble, and motivate us to learn what we need to proceed safely through the trouble spots. How can we keep fear from stopping us? There are three things I know that can help you master your fear.
Keep your dreams, and desires, strong. The best method I have heard of is to write down the desire, and read it every day, while allowing yourself to feel the same enthusiasm you felt when you first had that desire.
Be persistent. In every journey to success, you are going to have good times, you are going to have bad times, and you will even have times where you seem to be going backwards. The one trick successful people use is to keep moving, and don’t let anything stand in your way.
Follow your intuition. This one is a little more tricky, but with practice, you can learn to use your intuition as a guide to your dreams. Out of all three, this is the part fear will attack the most because it’s both very important to success, and it’s the most subtle of the methods. To illustrate the power of following your intuition, I will give you a recent example, and I’ll try to keep it brief. Cory Williams, from California, recently decided to move to Alaska, with his girlfriend. On one particular day the two decided to go on a drive, just to explore. They decided to drive down one road to see where it would take them. He found a sign that gave them a choice of right, or left, to two different lakes. He took the left road, found a semi-frozen lake, and thought it would be fun to skip a rock across, which produced a surprising sound. He recorded it, and his excitement, put it on YouTube, and the video went viral.
As the example shows, Cory’s intuition gave him several impulses, that he followed and they moved him further in his journey than being afraid of moving away from California could have ever moved him. As your intuition gives you the necessary impulses, your fear will make itself heard telling you things like your ideas are stupid, or that you aren’t good enough, or you can’t afford what you want. The best way to train yourself to follow your intuition is to use what fear tells you as a reason to do it. Don’t give fear the upper hand.
Fear is a part of all our lives. If you don’t want it to stop you from reaching your dreams, the key is to learn how to control it, instead of it controlling you.
Allen

Know Your Starting Point

April 17, 2014

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OK, you’ve expressed your desire, and what you want to do with the rest of your life, and you have the end in mind. This will leave you with just one question. “What next?”
Many people will tell you that the next step is to take action, and that is a very important step, but I believe that even before you take action you have to know where you are, and when you are.
There are two very good reasons for this. One, it shows you where you are starting from, and two, it helps you determine the direction you need to take. Imagine you are driving through a new city, to find a restaurant where you are meeting some friends. Whether you are using a gps, or reading a map, you have to know both where you want to start, and where you want to end up. If all you have is the destination you will never be able to find your way.
Let’s just say your destination is going to Denver. You want the most direct method to get there from your current location. If you don’t know where you are starting from, you will never know which way to go. If however, you know you are starting from Portland, Maine, you know you can hop on Southbound 95 to Baltimore, and head over to 70 heading west. That will take you to Denver. That may not be the most direct method, but the point is, in order to reach a destination, you must first know where you are starting from.
Now, let’s put that in a way that works with success. If your goal is to have one million dollars within the next year, it’s important to know where you are starting from. If you have 10 dollars in the bank currently, (yes, it can be done) the methods you use will likely be different than if you were starting with 100,000 dollars. This information is vital in choosing the correct path to act on.
By this point, you may be wondering why I also say when you are. The answer to that can be easily answered. It’s no secret that in order to reach your goals, you need to focus on the end result, and believe you already have it. By focusing on your past mistakes, and allowing them to haunt you, you can never move forward.
Your past is done, and can be useful in teaching you what not to do, but don’t let it spoil your dreams. Remember, the only place you have to start from is your current position. Don’t let your past ruin your future.
Once you know where you are going, and before you act, first figure out where you are starting from. It will give you a positive direction, and make the road to your dreams much smoother.
Allen
I realize it’s been a while, but my computer has been messing up, and I’ve been trying to learn how to use my Alphasmart word processor. It works great, by the way.

Getting What You Want

October 6, 2013

 

What you want

I learned from a very early age that life isn’t fair, and you don’t always get what you want.  It was such a big part of my life; growing up in a house with 6 kids, two adults, and a middle class income; that I came to believe it was our family motto.  This philosophy is so common, I later realized just about every middle class family has this belief.

Later, I would tell people, “I always get what I want, even if it takes years.”  While I was saying that outside, deep down, my “family motto” would kick in, and tell me that I will never get everything I want.  That same inner chatter would tell me “You can’t afford it”, or worse, “You don’t deserve it.”  As a result I would spend my life wanting things I could get easy, and believing that anything more was just too far out of my reach.

These thoughts get so ingrained that we suppress our true desires and pretend we don’t need them, all the while, our hearts telling us we can have a whole lot more.  How many times have you taken a close look at your life and felt that it was missing something; missing something that if you had it, you could be so much more to yourself, and everyone else around you.  It leaves us with one question that if we knew the answer, our lives would be so much closer to complete.  The question is, “What do I truly want in my life?”

This is a question only you can answer.  Each one of us is an individual, and no one else possesses the insight to our hearts, and vision.  There are, of course, several methods to finding your answers and no one method will work for everyone.  I will give you the method I used, but there are numerous books on the subject, and the internet is loaded with them.  The method in today’s blog comes from the book, “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield, and I would recommend this book to anyone starting their journey.

So there are no mistakes, I will quote this book exactly.  “One of the easiest ways to begin clarifying what you truly want is to make a list of 30 things you want to do, 30 things you want to have, and 30 things you want to be before you die.  This is a great way to get the ball rolling.”

The thing to keep in mind about this exercise is that there is no time limit.  You can take 1 day, or 1 month.  Don’t worry about whether your list sounds realistic or not; you are just writing  down your wants.  If you currently make 25,000 dollars per year, and want 10,000,000 dollars per year, write it down.  Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you that you can’t do it.  These are your wants, your dreams, and no one has the right to take that away from you.

The point the picture above makes is that knowing what you want is the only way to get what you want, so find a method to get your wants down on paper, so you can focus on them, and start finding ways to achieve them.  Not only can you do it, but you deserve it.

Allen

As a side note, This week, I have officially started the company JTS Publication, and the website www.jrnytosuccess.com where you can see my videos, and I am selling the pictures I’m putting on these blogs.  You will see other pictures that haven’t appeared here yet, but they will be used on future blogs.  Check it out, and please share this blog with others.  Thank you.

Day 45: Desire

February 7, 2012

Desire

 

I looked At the half full bottle

And I wanted

The thirst quenching liquid On the bottom.

 

I tried to tip it up

But it was stopped

By a rubber seal.

 

Thinking I had

Made a mistake I tried again

To no avail.

 

In frustration

I was about to throw it away,

When it hit me;

I took a straw

Punctured the top

And drained the bottle.

 

Sometimes

To reach your desires

You must try

A different approach.

 

 

With this poem, I thought it would be better as a clearly defined story line.  I hope you enjoyed it, and I appreciate all your likes, that have been coming in.

Day 33: Thoughts From A Park Bench

January 26, 2012

Thoughts From a Park Bench

 

I work at a store

I work in my home,

I want rest.

 

I give all to my job

I give all to my wife,

I want rest.

 

I am on my feet

Standing all day long,

I want to sit.

 

To walk through the park

Find a bench with a view,

I want to sit.

 

To enjoy the view of the bay

Sitting on a park bench,

That’s all I ask,

I don’t want too much.