Posts Tagged ‘control’

Controlling Fear

October 23, 2014

One of the things that always stopped me from success is the fear of what could happen; it’s not about what is, it’s about what if. Many of us try to live two steps ahead of the present, imagining only the bad things that can happen; “What if I try to climb a mountain, and fall hundreds of feet to my death.” “What if I can’t handle my new job, and I lose it.” “What if I walk across the street, and get hit by a bus.” While these fears may be in the realm of possible, they haven’t happened yet, and you can avoid them with the proper precautions.
When you let fear stop you from doing something, you are limiting yourself to a life of safety and mediocrity. You are not giving yourself a chance of living up to your full potential, and the best opportunities of your life are passing you by. Susan Jeffers wrote a wonderful book called, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. We all have fear, but if we want to live, we need to act on our dreams in spite of fear; don’t let the fear of tomorrow stop us from living today.
Out of all the books, and audio programs, I’ve been studying; I have never found one reference to getting rid of fear. Fear is a part of us all and spending time trying to get rid of fear only wastes our time and energy. Instead of letting fear stop us, we need to learn how to control fear, and put it in its proper place.
As with all things, fear has a positive side, as well as a negative one. The negative fear will petrify us, and leave us unable to proceed on our journey. Positive fear, once mastered, can warn us of impending trouble, and motivate us to learn what we need to proceed safely through the trouble spots. How can we keep fear from stopping us? There are three things I know that can help you master your fear.
Keep your dreams, and desires, strong. The best method I have heard of is to write down the desire, and read it every day, while allowing yourself to feel the same enthusiasm you felt when you first had that desire.
Be persistent. In every journey to success, you are going to have good times, you are going to have bad times, and you will even have times where you seem to be going backwards. The one trick successful people use is to keep moving, and don’t let anything stand in your way.
Follow your intuition. This one is a little more tricky, but with practice, you can learn to use your intuition as a guide to your dreams. Out of all three, this is the part fear will attack the most because it’s both very important to success, and it’s the most subtle of the methods. To illustrate the power of following your intuition, I will give you a recent example, and I’ll try to keep it brief. Cory Williams, from California, recently decided to move to Alaska, with his girlfriend. On one particular day the two decided to go on a drive, just to explore. They decided to drive down one road to see where it would take them. He found a sign that gave them a choice of right, or left, to two different lakes. He took the left road, found a semi-frozen lake, and thought it would be fun to skip a rock across, which produced a surprising sound. He recorded it, and his excitement, put it on YouTube, and the video went viral.
As the example shows, Cory’s intuition gave him several impulses, that he followed and they moved him further in his journey than being afraid of moving away from California could have ever moved him. As your intuition gives you the necessary impulses, your fear will make itself heard telling you things like your ideas are stupid, or that you aren’t good enough, or you can’t afford what you want. The best way to train yourself to follow your intuition is to use what fear tells you as a reason to do it. Don’t give fear the upper hand.
Fear is a part of all our lives. If you don’t want it to stop you from reaching your dreams, the key is to learn how to control it, instead of it controlling you.
Allen

It is What You Make it.

December 24, 2013

“It is what it is.”  This is a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot lately, and it drives me nuts.  Now, before you ask, I’ll tell you why.  It is another way of saying that the situation is forced on you, and you have no control, and therefore bear no responsibility, for the outcome.  If you know what I’ve been seriously researching this year, and committing to learn, you’ll know that I don’t believe that, and if you’re serious about success neither will you.

I’m not saying that you can control the actions of others.  Here’s an example from work that illustrates this perfectly; one of my jobs is to sort the load onto metal boats, and wheeled out to the individual aisles.  In order to sort the load properly, we need a minimum of 26 boats, and that will reduce walking, and increase productivity.  During this time of the year, other departments take the boats we need leaving us with a severe shortage. If you say “it is what it is” you are resigning yourself to that fact, and you will end up frustrated in the end, because you won’t see any other options.

If, however, you say to yourself, “it is what I make it” you will no longer be so frustrated, because you will know that you control the outcome, and your mind will begin searching for solutions, instead of making excuses; and yes, there are always options.

In Jack Canfield’s book “The Success Principles” the first principle is, take 100% responsibility.  Every speaker I’ve listened to, and every book on success I’ve read says exactly the same thing.  You must take 100% responsibility for your life, and success.  If you don’t, you are giving control of your life to someone else, and you will have no say in it.

Situations will happen in our lives, and this is unavoidable, but how you respond emotionally is what gives it the power in your life.  Going back to the boat situation, let’s look at just the facts.  We need 26 boats to efficiently process the load, to make it easier for others to do their jobs.  Fact number 2, is we don’t have that number of boats available.  There it is, those are the plain and simple facts.  How we respond will determine how we remedy the situation.  Others will have different ways of looking at the situation than ourselves.

The only thing that matters, in the end, is that we find a solution, and get the job done; but you will never reach that point if you resign yourself to the situation by saying “it is what it is.”

Allen

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Day 60: New Heights

February 22, 2012

New Heights

 

I watched the birds flying

And I wanted to fly with them,

I tried to approach them

To ask how they did it

But they flew away.

Then, as I sat on a rock

Trying to figure out what I did wrong

I felt myself being lifted.

I looked up

And the birds were carrying me

To heights I never imagined possible.

Don’t let technology control you

December 10, 2008

Every time you turn around it seems that technology keeps changing the way we see, and interact with, the world around us.  This is nothing new.  Inventions such as the telephone, cars, and television, have brought about major changes to who we can talk to, how far we can travel, and how many people we can reach.  Is it any surprise that the internet would have the same effect, changing our access to the world?  Since I started making videos on you tube, last February, I haven’t had any reason to turn on the tv.  With my computer, I can watch movies and videos, listen to music, write, edit photographs, and do all the research I want, and never have to worry about paying for long distance to keep in touch with my family and friends.
With everything a computer can do, is there a negative side to technology?  With all this information, and entertainment at our fingertips exercise has gone down and weight related health problems are on the increase.  Another problem is that everything we do is being run by computers.  As a result, people have become so dependent on them that if something happens to their computers, they would have a hard time recovering from the loss of information.
My own recommendation is to set a time limit for computer use so that you can get up and exercise.  If you are doing something specific on the computer, figure out what you want and how to accomplish it before you turn the computer on, this will make the task easier, and shorten the time you need to spend on the computer.  Make sure you save your files to disc, and save often. That way, if your computer crashes all you lose is time, and not information, it’s easier to replace a computer than it is to replace all the information a company needs to survive.
In short, make technology work for you.  Don’t let it control you.

Enjoy,
Allen