Posts Tagged ‘canfield’

It is What You Make it.

December 24, 2013

“It is what it is.”  This is a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot lately, and it drives me nuts.  Now, before you ask, I’ll tell you why.  It is another way of saying that the situation is forced on you, and you have no control, and therefore bear no responsibility, for the outcome.  If you know what I’ve been seriously researching this year, and committing to learn, you’ll know that I don’t believe that, and if you’re serious about success neither will you.

I’m not saying that you can control the actions of others.  Here’s an example from work that illustrates this perfectly; one of my jobs is to sort the load onto metal boats, and wheeled out to the individual aisles.  In order to sort the load properly, we need a minimum of 26 boats, and that will reduce walking, and increase productivity.  During this time of the year, other departments take the boats we need leaving us with a severe shortage. If you say “it is what it is” you are resigning yourself to that fact, and you will end up frustrated in the end, because you won’t see any other options.

If, however, you say to yourself, “it is what I make it” you will no longer be so frustrated, because you will know that you control the outcome, and your mind will begin searching for solutions, instead of making excuses; and yes, there are always options.

In Jack Canfield’s book “The Success Principles” the first principle is, take 100% responsibility.  Every speaker I’ve listened to, and every book on success I’ve read says exactly the same thing.  You must take 100% responsibility for your life, and success.  If you don’t, you are giving control of your life to someone else, and you will have no say in it.

Situations will happen in our lives, and this is unavoidable, but how you respond emotionally is what gives it the power in your life.  Going back to the boat situation, let’s look at just the facts.  We need 26 boats to efficiently process the load, to make it easier for others to do their jobs.  Fact number 2, is we don’t have that number of boats available.  There it is, those are the plain and simple facts.  How we respond will determine how we remedy the situation.  Others will have different ways of looking at the situation than ourselves.

The only thing that matters, in the end, is that we find a solution, and get the job done; but you will never reach that point if you resign yourself to the situation by saying “it is what it is.”

Allen

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Getting What You Want

October 6, 2013

 

What you want

I learned from a very early age that life isn’t fair, and you don’t always get what you want.  It was such a big part of my life; growing up in a house with 6 kids, two adults, and a middle class income; that I came to believe it was our family motto.  This philosophy is so common, I later realized just about every middle class family has this belief.

Later, I would tell people, “I always get what I want, even if it takes years.”  While I was saying that outside, deep down, my “family motto” would kick in, and tell me that I will never get everything I want.  That same inner chatter would tell me “You can’t afford it”, or worse, “You don’t deserve it.”  As a result I would spend my life wanting things I could get easy, and believing that anything more was just too far out of my reach.

These thoughts get so ingrained that we suppress our true desires and pretend we don’t need them, all the while, our hearts telling us we can have a whole lot more.  How many times have you taken a close look at your life and felt that it was missing something; missing something that if you had it, you could be so much more to yourself, and everyone else around you.  It leaves us with one question that if we knew the answer, our lives would be so much closer to complete.  The question is, “What do I truly want in my life?”

This is a question only you can answer.  Each one of us is an individual, and no one else possesses the insight to our hearts, and vision.  There are, of course, several methods to finding your answers and no one method will work for everyone.  I will give you the method I used, but there are numerous books on the subject, and the internet is loaded with them.  The method in today’s blog comes from the book, “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield, and I would recommend this book to anyone starting their journey.

So there are no mistakes, I will quote this book exactly.  “One of the easiest ways to begin clarifying what you truly want is to make a list of 30 things you want to do, 30 things you want to have, and 30 things you want to be before you die.  This is a great way to get the ball rolling.”

The thing to keep in mind about this exercise is that there is no time limit.  You can take 1 day, or 1 month.  Don’t worry about whether your list sounds realistic or not; you are just writing  down your wants.  If you currently make 25,000 dollars per year, and want 10,000,000 dollars per year, write it down.  Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you that you can’t do it.  These are your wants, your dreams, and no one has the right to take that away from you.

The point the picture above makes is that knowing what you want is the only way to get what you want, so find a method to get your wants down on paper, so you can focus on them, and start finding ways to achieve them.  Not only can you do it, but you deserve it.

Allen

As a side note, This week, I have officially started the company JTS Publication, and the website www.jrnytosuccess.com where you can see my videos, and I am selling the pictures I’m putting on these blogs.  You will see other pictures that haven’t appeared here yet, but they will be used on future blogs.  Check it out, and please share this blog with others.  Thank you.